How Empathy Works ????

Hello All

Do you know care, respect, appreciation many more things are nearly attached with our inner soul with our heart,mind...  in a word it is empty to understand others feelings too ...so these are very important things for any kind of relationship..it may be for husband, spouse, boy or girl friend or children..

But how many members really can appreciate their mom ,wife or sister when they try to do something hard for them !!!!! ...........why so silence....!!!!!!!!!!


Because it is May be no....I have seen several times that after hole the day of work at office or home when a lady goes to kitchen to prepare food for her nearest one  she gives her hole love ,passion to cook that dish...sometime standing and sweating near fire do not make her cranky , frustrated,angry .....the only reason is Love....from the affection of love towards children, husband she prepares dinner for them in smile face but what she achieves ??? Only criticism about the dish!!!. From corner to corner from each angle no one leaves to criticise her if the dish becomes really salty or tasteless... they are always ready to pinch not to help !!!!


Care ,Love ,Affection are really such important things like little hugging ,kissing , handling with care prove the degree of how much our family ,our own  children , spouse love us ..for that soft behaviour towards mom or wife is including these sentimental values those we have gained through our sacrifice ,well behaved manner ... through our hole lives...it is not an easy task...

Even in  "Shrimad Bhagavad Gita" also lord Krishna said that in free we can't achieve anything...so all we have gained as a mother or wives all we deserve...but who cares about us !!!

Being human does not mean that we have full of  humanity...Still I can remember those days when we had come from our mama badi(uncle's house) after Durga Puja vacation and at the night most of the restaurants were closed and but we had become so hungry that my mother was usuto of going to kitchen to cook for us eventhough she also was very exhausted,tired but not looking into that she became very busy for early cooking and serving hot in our plates and still standing and asking how was the food !!!! Still I remember the taste of my mother's fish curry... it's a uncomparable ,unique taste, thing which we loved too ...we always appreciated our mom for doing so....we were ,are blessed and we made her understand also that she is special for us...

But in many families I have seen opposite scenarios .... like they expect the perfect dinner or lunch or whatever they want it should be like that and it is happened when a woman allows this and accepts it as ovious.They think that it is their faith so they acknowledge it and carry the hole work load of home and office with distress and sorrow but don't think how to give lessons or make   them understand the value ,the respect the appreciation of a woman can be a strong construction for a healthy relationship.

Today I am talking about only women does not mean that I am against of men ... actually in India it's generally happened with women because of our old ,worst thoughts .... still standing on 21 St century most of the men have desire to flirt with beautiful girl friend outdide or one night stand but at the time of marriage it is  becoming arranged marriage choosen by their mom..and along with they expect that the bride should be come from very rich wealthy family with old tradition maintaining with all relationship nicely with good job , education background and should be expertise in all daily cores but it should not be applicable on them itself and they have the full right to judge their women if they are committed....in India commitement is a believe where men  easily think a woman is his property on whom he can do whatever desirable.Eventhough many Indian laws have been passed out  past few years in the the favor of women but actually inside the house it doesn't work still remains the same but yes gradually it is changing .


That's why when a woman tries to do or balance both the side equally that time encouragement is becoming far away and criticism takes a main part to point out her fault instead of helping her woman...even still after becoming so much educated also we have to bear all these things..

That's why in the beginning I was telling know that care,affection,love,faith, encouragement,appreciation are the major things in life to be charged and work more efficiently without any mistakes ...


That is why today I am asking being educated means being civilised ???? Education means specialisation on any specific topic or entire knowledge and getting degree...

And civilised means may or may not be he literally knows the way of education but she knows how to talk ,what to talk ,where to talk...what are the things can pinch, humiliating and can be hurt  or give sorrow to people...she or he actually cares about you not the mackey smiling or false face to show you how they care for you...

These are all about empathy... it's a small word but describes a lot ...it is totally upto you to understand opposite human's fellings for a new sunrise.

So if still you are in these dilemma try to rectify yourself by encouraging your mother ,wife ,daughter ,sister in their work to run all the relationship in smoothly way, to achieve respect back .... really believe men  we women need your support.